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sevenhelz at 01:57am on 29/11/2006
sevenhelz at 01:57am on 29/11/2006De-friendslocked because I can.
I'm not sure if I want to go to the college-people winter meal, and it's for entirely selfish reasons.
I keep having to justify myself in this at the expense of others, but seriously, here are the bare facts:
We have a meal every winter, and a holiday every summer. We talk online fairly regularly and we enjoy each others' company.
I have wheat-sensitive IBS and everything that goes with it mentally.
The meal is in an Italian.
I mean, yes, I have seen the menu, and yes there are (admittedly about six, most of which I have to order "without the...") meals I can choose from; there's ice cream on the dessert menu and one of the sundaes I can eat actually looks pretty nice. There's even a cocktail I can drink. But it's pretty expensive, and it's fairly likely I will be surrounded by people eating pizza and pasta, at the very least as side dishes. It's also quite likely that the "pleasant" smells of these foods will waft over me before I get to eat anything, which is a sure-fire way to nausea (unless I've had a snack before going, which means I'll have less appetite and thus the prices will upset me more). It's a bit tactless for someone who's seen me fly off the handle over food issues to pick a place like this. I know now that it's more to do with one of our friends' travel and work arrangements than the food available, but still. I'm now being told that if I thought the bloke who was organising it was going to pick somewhere unsuitable, I should've organised it myself (despite the fact that another friend who was previously vegetarian and is more sensitive to my ISSUES was planning on organising before this bloke decided he was doing it). And that I HAVE to come.
Well, yeah, because the rudest thing you can do is NOT turn up to a party and ruin it for everyone by a) projectile vomiting b) spending all of my time in the toilet and/or c) complaining constantly. Not being there sucks way more.
....
I'm a bit pissed off with the bloke who organised right now. This is not the first time he has made plans for me and precluded the essential step of actually communicating them to me. Okay, the world does not revolve around me. I am still the only person in our group, bar his girlfriend who I assume he actually has discussed this with, who has a diet issue.
Is there something I'm missing here, or am I the only person who can see some imaginary point?
No love for the world right now.
I'm not sure if I want to go to the college-people winter meal, and it's for entirely selfish reasons.
I keep having to justify myself in this at the expense of others, but seriously, here are the bare facts:
We have a meal every winter, and a holiday every summer. We talk online fairly regularly and we enjoy each others' company.
I have wheat-sensitive IBS and everything that goes with it mentally.
The meal is in an Italian.
I mean, yes, I have seen the menu, and yes there are (admittedly about six, most of which I have to order "without the...") meals I can choose from; there's ice cream on the dessert menu and one of the sundaes I can eat actually looks pretty nice. There's even a cocktail I can drink. But it's pretty expensive, and it's fairly likely I will be surrounded by people eating pizza and pasta, at the very least as side dishes. It's also quite likely that the "pleasant" smells of these foods will waft over me before I get to eat anything, which is a sure-fire way to nausea (unless I've had a snack before going, which means I'll have less appetite and thus the prices will upset me more). It's a bit tactless for someone who's seen me fly off the handle over food issues to pick a place like this. I know now that it's more to do with one of our friends' travel and work arrangements than the food available, but still. I'm now being told that if I thought the bloke who was organising it was going to pick somewhere unsuitable, I should've organised it myself (despite the fact that another friend who was previously vegetarian and is more sensitive to my ISSUES was planning on organising before this bloke decided he was doing it). And that I HAVE to come.
Well, yeah, because the rudest thing you can do is NOT turn up to a party and ruin it for everyone by a) projectile vomiting b) spending all of my time in the toilet and/or c) complaining constantly. Not being there sucks way more.
....
I'm a bit pissed off with the bloke who organised right now. This is not the first time he has made plans for me and precluded the essential step of actually communicating them to me. Okay, the world does not revolve around me. I am still the only person in our group, bar his girlfriend who I assume he actually has discussed this with, who has a diet issue.
Is there something I'm missing here, or am I the only person who can see some imaginary point?
No love for the world right now.
can has cookie?
More importantly: http://www.gfdiet.com/ Gluten-free bakery!
It's really quite unfair taking you to an Italian restaurant. I am trying to cut back on gluten with some success - one pasta dish or a sandwich a day, I'm fine, two and I'm creased up with a hot water bottle and wanting the pain to go away - but even I'd complain at going there out of principle.
I will come back with you. And the stick of Yes I Can See The Point And Soon You Will Feel It.
can has cookie?
xx
can has cookie?
Assuming there's no chance of changing the venue, then I reckon you should decline with a polite yet firm ' I'm sorry, but as we've discussed, I can't eat that sort of food'. Maybe you could go for a drink with them beforehand or after?
can has cookie?
It's a good point actually, he probably doesn't get how frustrating it is or how much discomfort I can be in if certain things set me off. I'll try and talk calmly to him, but it's difficult when I don't get a response for half an hour and then it's basically "tough" or "well that's not our problem" dressed up in slightly prettier words.
xx