sevenhelz

Today I overheard two (male) members of the university brass band having a long discussion. They spoke about their weekend, and all the people they'd insulted by calling them parts of a woman's anatomy; of the 'cripple' girl on crutches; of the people they insulted by shouting 'you slept with <insert name here>!'*. Then they discussed a band they don't like - the rivalry between their own band and the one they mentioned is well known. Along with general '<X band> are shit' type comments there were personal attacks on players - not that this surprised me, coming from these people, but what was unusual was the lack of criticism of the playing. No, they stuck to the tried and tested references to women's anatomy and apparently inappropriate secual encounters with presumed undesirables. At some point one of them was using a false facebook account to send vile messages along the same lines - who to, I can't tell, but they were concerned that they not get back to the rival band.

They also commented on the attractiveness of some people in photos, which I wouldn't even comment on were it not for the rest. Naturally it was all about how fuckable the girls were, and how ugly the guys were. These two have some major egos. At one point one said 'Yeah I had my finger stuck up X's arse in that picture, that's why she looks like that'.

My male 'friend' who laughed along is not someone I want to talk to right now. I told him I was disowning him, and one of the people engaged in discussion mistakenly thought I was addressing him - his response was a very aggressive 'I don't care, fuck you'. I didn't get involved after that.


I've emailed a female lecturer about this. I don't know who I can report it to, or what may happen, but I really don't want to work with these idiots** anymore. Not now that I know the full extent of their hate for women. I was shocked and disgusted, and a little frightened. I am still angry. I know now why my band feels so much more aggressive than it used to. I want them out of my band.



* I didn't make out if these were male or female names, and so can't accuse them of homophobia, 'only' major misogyny.
** Took me a while to choose that word.



ETA: Almost forgot this choice nugget; one of them telling the other in tones that made it clear this was hilarious, 'so I told her <a certain part of her anatomy> smelled really bad'. Cue me: Wow, that's really funny. </sarcasm> They: Well it was at the time.