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2013-06-16 11:01 am
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HAIR

I find conversations about hair fairly boring, and my hair in particular to be incredibly dull. So obviously the best thing is to discuss it on my blog. That'll change everything.

What I've noticed lately is the North-South divide on this issue. Back up North, people would ask me "Would you ever grow it?" as a conversation starter; whereas down here, people apparently just assume it's a gay thing and ignore it for ages, and then say things like "You must've known when you were doing it that you were making a political statement?"

I've got a statement for you right here.

It's just hair.

Hair grows. Hair gets messy, has to be washed and untangled, has to be scraped into a bun, has to be hoovered up and removed from plugholes, has to be dealt with all the damn time. I can't be bothered with it. I'd love to say I don't give a fuck what you think of me for having it short, but sadly I'm getting pretty riled up over how many people think it somehow signifies my sexuality or political views. What my short hair signifies is that I like my hair short. It's just hair.

I hated hairdressers for a long time, and now that I'm in a position where it's convenient in many ways to have short hair the way I like it, I'm going to carry on. If people are going to assume shit about me because of it that's their loss, frankly. But for reference, this is what I look like most of the time. Notice the hair?

The Band of the Grenadier Guards on parade in full Summer Guard Order.

sevenhelz: photo of me snuggling a cat. my face is not shown (Default)
2009-05-05 11:08 am

on words

I know I've said at least part of this somewhere before, but it seems to need repeating.

An aside: There is no female equvalent to "guy". There is no female equivalent to "bloke". There is no male equivalent to "cow", or to "slut", or to various other slurs against women. It is worth considering why this might be, and rejecting the unspoken assumption - created by the language itself - that men as a group somehow behave better than woman as a group. All people are individuals, capable of both good and bad behaviour, and language is not an objective study of male or female behaviour trends.

Point 1: Women are not girls. Men are not boys.

Point 2: If, in a certain situation, you consistently refer to men as men, you should also consistently refer to women as women. Not girls.

Point 3: If you find yourself, in a certain situation, referring consistently to men and girls, you are probably male should probably consider your reasoning and adjust your actions accordingly.

Point 4: Some women may appreciate being made to feel young. This is because our society teaches women that their youth and sexuality are their only, or most, valuable traits. Hence these women believe their value is decreasing as they age. These women would not, I believe, be insulted by being accorded their full role as women.

Point 5: Young adult women often struggle to be taken seriously, especially in the world of work. As they already display the "valuable" trait of youth (and sexual desirability, according to our culture), young adult women are often not seeking to be made to feel young and sexually attractive. In fact, if young adult women are seeking to be taken seriously, they may find it demeaning to be designated as younger than they are. If you find yourself consistently referring to young women as girls, and young men in the same or a lower age bracket as men, you may want to consider your reasoning and adjust your actions accordingly.

That is all.